Turning shit around, having fun, building compliance and pulling

FR: 5/11/13

So after the night before, I wanted to start looking for answers. I posted a thread on RSDn with the situation and what conclusions I had come to and the goals I had.

When I talked to my roommate and others, they expressed that it was probably down to these three things: drawing state from within, self-amusing, and continual right action.

Drawing state from within and self-amusing can in intertwined. When you self-amuse, you are pinging off of yourself and creating good emotions for yourself and also those around you.

You can also draw state from within and only effect yourself. Basically like thinking of a happy moment in time and reliving the joyous feeling inside your body. You don’t even necessarily have to think of something specific, you can just bring that happy, joyous feeling into yourself.

Continual right action is approaching and keeping the momentum going. It can also by, while in set as well: building compliance, venue changing, pulling, etc. Keeping it exciting in set.

The goals I had for myself is to start working on pulling. It’s been a little over a week since I last had sex and I am starting to get a little anxious. Pulling is the next step before fucking and It’s time to sharpen the blade.

I think the core of my boredom is the fact that I’m getting comfortable. I would approach, stay in set and stay comfortable by not moving the set around, getting a little edgier, building compliance and going for the pull.

With this in mind, I go out with a positive outlook on the night.

When we first get to the club, its pretty dead. I’m just fucking around with my friends. Singing a long to gangster rap, pretending to make it rain on my friend who’s pretending to be a female dancer.

I open a set. Completely relaxed and just having innocent fun. I self-amuse and have fun with it.

I smoke a cigarette. Some short fat dyke asks me for a lighter. I give her one and start chatting with her. Full detachment of outcome, it felt a little different than most of my sets. Felt extremely free.

I got a little taste of how it should be and rolled with it for the rest of the night.

We go upstairs to the rooftop patio. My friend beckons me over to approach a 2 set. I go in first and chat.

We’re there for a good 5-10 minutes or so. With building compliance in mind, I decide to go for venue change to club downstairs.

She agrees and we head down. When we get there, she doesn’t have the proper stamp to get it. No worries, I suggest we roll out to my place to grab drink and come right back.

She agrees and we head out. On the way, we chat and I ask her if she likes Jenga. We get to my place and my roommate is getting dressed with a girl he just banged; is dick hanging out and all. LOL

We wait outside for them to get dressed and then head to the living area.

I’m surprised that she was still down. We play Jenga and I tell her she has to give me a kiss if she loses.

The entire time her friend is hitting her up because my friend left her all alone. TBH, I really didn’t care. I didn’t want to fuck this girl. I just wanted to pull for the sake of pulling.

After she loses, we kiss. I get a little LMR and she wants to go back because her friend is alone and scared LOL. I oblige; she wasn’t that cute.

When we get back I tell her that I have to find my friends and peace her out. I find them a second later and we head down to the club. I’m by the dance floor in a good mood for taking action and a bouncer is passing out those foam light sticks.

My friends grab one and I get one as well. We head to the middle of the dance floor and I start beating both of my friends with the light stick; laughing and having a good time; sword fighting and stabbing

A couple minutes in a blonde girl grabs at my back; like a little pinch/squeeze. I turn around and see she’s pretty cute. I poke her with my stick and grab her hand to dance. We dance for a bit and I make go for make out after exchanging names, etc. Slightly denied, slightly not denied.

I felt pretty entitled at this point. I decide to move her to the patio by telling her its hot, lets go over here. And lead. I seed for the pull indirectly by saying how I live super close and sometimes leave the club to get drinks and come back because the drinks here are so expensive.

I try for the pull after a bit of conversation, but she says later. We go inside and her drunk friend finds her.

Yay, babysitting time! We cherish for a bit, dance for a bit, and then head upstairs to the rooftop patio.

We get there and I try to work logistics for the pull. We cherish and I’m making out with her a bit and getting her horny by biting her neck and lightly fingering her and rubbing her tits.

She’s super into me and really wants to fuck by this time, but still has to take care of her friend, and plus, they took a party bus that was leaving by 1:30am.

As the time starts to narrow, I tell her I have to go to the bathroom and she should come with me. I tell her friend we’ll be right back in two minutes, just gonna go to the bathroom.

She comes and I lead her straight to the elevator (was gonna just pull back to my place). She stops me and asks if I was going to go to the bathroom downstairs and I say yes. She wants to stay up and have me meet her. And then I run by the drinks at my place again. She wants to, but has to stay with friend and party bus is coming in 15 minutes.

I talk a bit more and seed for fucky time at a later date. She basically agreed to fucking. She said she’s extremely single and when I told her she seems like shed be crazy in bed, she said that she’s been told she’s the best others have had. LOL so down.

Anyways, I peace her out and go to meet up with other friends.

Next memorable set we met in the middle of the street at around 3am when it’s a ghost town. I approach and initially get ignored. I naturally found a line that gets them to open while they ignore me, worked multiple times that night:

ME: Hi, hello, I’m Andrew. I’m really nice. Hello.

HER: ignore

ME: I’m nice, I have chest on my hair.

HER: ahahahaha what?? You have chest on your hair. Hahaha *hug*

It’s on. We walk hand in hand and chat for a bit. She says she’s headed over to the friends house and we’re welcome to come with.

We do and chill out for a bit. Meet her friends and chat for a bit. My girl was a little drunk and I don’t see an opportunity to isolate, so I grab number and bounce.

End of night.

******* Main thing is having fun, doing things out of your comfort zone and being a little more on the edge. Also, build compliance and more actively go for pull.

Shit-fuck bitch ass bouncers…. Yes, I’m a little bitter

FR: 5/9/13

Drove to LA, from Vegas, to catch the RSD free tour. Left a little early; while Tyler was rambling. Went out to downtown LA to pickup a girl my boy met in Vegas.

We parked right outside “Perch” and my boy called her to come down. He talked her into leaving her friend and going to get some food with him. Plan was to drop him and the girl off and for me to go to Lure in Hollywood.

While on our way to a Mexican restaurant, the girl gets a text message from her friend saying that her roommate/friend was sick and had to go to the hospital. Was really weird and we kind of thought it might have been made up, but didn’t stress too much over it. Dropped her off and headed out to Hollywood.

We we’re told to buy tickets for $20 online, but we thought we were too cool and tried to work the door. We figured worst case we’d be able to just pay the cover and get in.

Stupid us: door man was a dick, the whole thing was unorganized and a large cluster of fucks. Promoters were supplicating to the main dude and dude was a big headed, douche bag to the max; so fake and fragile. It was kind of hilarious.

After an hour or so of persisting, we decided to try somewhere else. We go over to Hollywood blvd and find a hipster bar. The bar was almost pitch black, loud and high energy. The crowd wasn’t my typical crowd and kind of put me into a weird headspace.

I was partially afraid of hitting up a dude with long hair because I couldn’t see shit. LOL. My boy hooked a girl right away and spent a lot of the time there with her.

I stood around for a while, putting myself in the worst headspace of the challenge. Was pretty gay. After a while I finally made a move right before we were about to leave and made my brain transition to: ‘People are generally nice and there’s no reason you are not enough.’

We leave a little after to go hit up outside of Lure. First girls we approach were walking away to their car. My wing hit them up first; I roll up second. Set goes ok, but they are heading home and persist to leave despite our attempts to lure them with weed that we don’t have to an after party that we don’t even have a venue for yet. Ha.

Next set I remember is a little Swedish girl, super cute. I hit up and she is super distracted trying to get her drunk friend away from some creeper dude trying to take her with him. I persist just enough to keep her engaged with me, but not enough to annoy her and blow it out.

After the friend is handled she comes back to me. I tell her that I know some Norwegian: ‘Vil du ha mine barne.’ Meaning: ‘I want you to have my babies.’ I hung with her for a bit and handled her drunk friend’s attempt to blow out. Telling me that if I break her heart, she’s gonna break me.

I told her that we’d be together forever and that I like how she looks out for her friend because she’d look after her while I was not around. Drunken friend disarmed.

Kind of funny: I see Todd in my peripheral and he sends in his boot camp student to come wing me.

The student comes in weak, looking at me for permission and I don’t think he even talked to the girl. My wing sees this dude and brushes him off easily and engages the friend to wing me LOL.

Later another dude is trying to take home my girl’s friend and my girl has me blow him out. I work for logistics and try to work the pull. Unfortunately logistics are not there and I see her off to a taxi.

Hit up a couple more sets. Next memorable set is a tall 9. I roll up super relaxed and very present. She’s facing the way I’m walking from and we make eye contact from about 5 feet away. I hold it and open with a, “Hey there.” Super smooth, present, basic conversation and she’s super hooked.

Her friend is screaming her name right next to her and her focus is completely on me. Doesn’t break. Finally I break the tension after the logistics aren’t there and get ready to bounce. Before I do, she shyly asks for my number and suggests we hang out sometime.

I find out next day when she hits me up that she’s a professional cheerleader for Chiva’s USA. Super hot.

Hit a few more up and then drive back to SD at 3am in the morning. FML.

Surrender Vegas, Tired Bitches, LMR

FR: 5/8/13

Woke up around 6pm, got up, went to Chipotle, and then beasted a little. After a couple hours or so, we decided to go back to the hotel and take a nap before we head out.

Woke back up around 10:30pm and went to Surrender. The venue was awesome! Super large, open area and an abundance of women.

We had a total of 4 guys in total. Two of them hit up a set together right away, another went to the bathroom, and I wandered around a little.

I didn’t hit anything up for a while. I ran into the dude that went to the bathroom and we wandered a little bit. Neither of us were leading and getting things started, so I decided that I should get things started.

I hit up a fat chick to get started and my friend took her ugly friend. We chatted with them for about 5 to 10 minutes before they said that they were going to go find their friends.

Knowing that since I got the first set started, I hit up the next set immediately. It goes well and my wing took her friend. Once that set burns out, we hit up the next. I start getting into a better state; everything I say hits.

We continue to the next set: two really cute girls from Long Island. These two are very reserved and don’t give back anything when talked to. The girl my wing was talking to gets distracted and pulls my girl away. I feel I could have persisted, but didn’t because I felt like I was talking to a wall.

Things started to slow down after this. I maybe hit up like 10 to 15 girls in a row and was getting a little bored with each interaction. I’m  also not creating enough ‘initiative,’ as Alexander from RSD calls it.

I slow down a lot and start choding around a bit. The club closes in an hour or so and I meet back up with one of the initial friends that separated at the beginning.

We decide to hit the casino. Casino is a little dead at this point and we go back into Surrender. We hit up a couple more sets before we head back out to the casino again.

We wait by the exit for girls to pour out. My friend hits up a couple lone girls. Finally this really cute blonde and her friend walk out and I beckon my wing over.

Before we get to them these two dudes approach them. They engage for a few seconds, but seem pretty chode and they obviously don’t know them, so I roll over to blow them out. So quick and their gone.

We hit it off with the girls and pull outside the Casino. They semi-drunk and super energetic/hyper, both young and having fun. Taking pictures, etc., hard to control and move forward.

My girl mentions that she’s hungry and I pull to Denny’s. On the way my girl gets distracted by the Venetian and stops for pictures. This gives my wing a chance to pull her friend away. My girl and I get to Denny’s and my wing and his girl head back to our hotel room.

My girl is sending texts to her friend asking her where she is and come back asap. Her friend tells her that she’s getting a drink with my wing and I tell my girl to have them pour a drink for me too.

She still tells her friend to come back, but then sends a text to say if she wants, and to make us a drink.

Too late, I guess the friend was giving my wing LMR and they were already headed back. We have breakfast, hang out and then when we’re done, my girl is acting like a pussy bitch and making an excuse that she’s tired and they head off.

My wing and I hit up the craps table before bed, lose money and then pass out.

New Zealand Girl + LMR = No Fucky, Long Night

Got to Vegas in the afternoon. Woke my friends up and headed out to beast a bit. Grab some food and beast. Not much out, but we hit up what we can.

Decide to go back to the room for a nap before heading out to Pure.

We wake up around 11pm-ish and go out to pure. We hit some shit up on the way. Once in, there are a pretty large amount of dudes.

We hit up what’s available, but some seem a bit standoffish. I’m not sure what it was, but remember a specific I hit up and kept plowing, for her to continue ignoring me and even turning away from me, but later in the night seeing me and excitedly reengaging me.

Fucking weird. Anyways, we decided to head out to the casino floor. We find a couple German girls around 12:30am and chat it up for a bit. Show them how to get free drinks, but after showing little compliance, we ditch them.

We head back in after a bit more of hitting up ladies in the casino. I hit a few girls up, but nothing seems to stick. Both of my friends are occupied, and eventually go for pull, and I get stuck alone in the club.

Not always a bad thing, but I wasn’t getting anything to stick and when I would make attempts to open, it wouldn’t hook or anything. Started to get in a bit of a bad headspeace, so I just chilled for a bit.

I would still hit shit up intermittently, but there wasn’t much available and I wasn’t coming off as I should when I did open.

One of my friend texts me that he’s on his way back. He says that he as a four set outside Pure at the seahorse bar. I roll over and grab one of the girls. She’s very unattractive and I notice that she has a ring. I sit and chat to get into a more social mood.

After a few minutes, we bounce out of that set and go by the entrance to Pure. Girls are starting to come out. As they do, we hit them up. The girl my friend had pulled earlier gave him LMR and he was waiting for her to come out the club again.

When she came out, she had a friend with her. Unfortunately, her friend had  a bit of pudge. She wasn’t really ugly, just a little fat. I gamed her and she immediately fell in love with me. She made moves to kiss me, etc. She had a tongue ring, so worst case, I would have let her give me and amazing blow job.

We pull to Bally’s. I actually would have fucked her, but a third cunty, ugly, biter bitch cock blocked both of us hard when we got back to their hotel room. These girls eventually blow out and we head back to the Pure entrance.

When we get back I open a set of Canadian girls. One of them falls in love with me, but her friends drag her off.

A couple minutes later after fucking around in the lobby, kung fu fighting with a friend, I open a cute New Zealander. She’s got pale skin, dark hair, and cute little accent.

I open pretty hard and she’s dragging her friend away saying she needs to get her home. I persist and eventually she stops. She falls in love pretty quick, I pick her up and carry her to a chair, and place her on my lap.

Her friend expresses that she wants to find a guy friend’s room that is staying at Ceaser’s Palace (same hotel as Pute). She makes me promise that I’ll stay here with her friend. I promise and she takes off.

NZ girl stays with me an proceeds to show me pictures of her at XS on stage with LMFAO. She’s adorable and I tease her. She’s staying at Harrah’s, which is right next to The Quad (where I’m staying), and I agree to walk her to her room.

The entire time, she won’t kiss me on the lips. I’m kissing her neck, cheek, and ears pretty aggressively; she’s completely ok with it. I get her to kiss me once on the way to her hotel, but no make out.

We get up her room and we lay on the bet together. I start kissing her next and her collar bone, and move down her to breast. She’s wearing one of those rubber pads over her breast and she tells me that she needs to go take it off.

She comes back with all her clothes off except her panties. I follow suit and take my clothes off as well. Things start getting a little hot as I am rubbing her clit and stick my finger in a little.

I start getting light LMR. I ignore it and continue. Then she says, “I can’t have sex with you.” Again, I ignore it and persist. She starts giving me massive LMR and tells me that I have to go. I pull back a lot, chill out and talk.

I get her engaged in the conversation and proceed to move forward. I get her laughing a lot and relaxed with me. She still gives me resistance. I pull back again. Tell her I really don’t care if we have sex and that I really enjoyed her company.

She’s telling me to leave because her friend is going to come back soon and she can’t see me here. She tells me that she has a boyfriend back in NZ and the girl that is with her is his sister. I change subject, chill back again, and move forward when necessary. Still no go.

I try to get her to come get food with me – I would have eventually went for the pull to my place –  but no go.

I go for last straw and tell her that I’m gay; it won’t count as sex. This is America, since you’re in a different country; it doesn’t count as cheating. I start putting my clothes on, she want’s to add me to facebook, and I tell her that I’ll add her if she has sex with me. Still no go.

As I am leaving ask her one last time if she’s sure she doesn’t want to have sex. She says no and then I ask her if she wants to suck my dick instead, and she says no. LOL, I head out and meet my buddies at McDonalds.

Hit up the craps tables, when some money, and get back to the room to sleep until 5pm next day.

********Things to take from this night:

1)    Hit everything up, even ugly girls/fat girls, and girls with guys. There was not an abundance of women last night and in order to get into state/social mood, it’s necessary to hit up everything.

2)    I am in Vegas, as I hit up more girls and get warmed up, it is important to screen hard for compliance and escalate (shortly after opening), and then go for the pull. Tonight is my last night here and the clubs are open super later, therefore if the pull goes down, but the fuck doesn’t, I can always go back o the club.